Published in CRY Magazine·Mar 14Let Me Be UglyI am sobbing, trembling, shaking, hyperventilating into his embrace that holds me from across the world. He is here and not here, close and distant, holding and refusing parts of me that I struggle to carry. …Mental Health6 min read
Jul 7, 2021This is false.This is false. There are a wide variety of naturally-occurring intersex conditions that cannot be classified as either female (XX) or male (XY). Some intersex people are born with XO, XXY, XYY, and other chromosomal configurations that differ from the (XX = female) and (XY = male) binary that is…2 min read
Jun 7, 2021Turning On the Machine and Turning off the AnimalsIn the span of two days I was nuzzled by a pig, kissed by a deer, greeted by a monkey, humped by a dog, and unknowingly provided shelter to a moth in my hat while visiting a rural town deep in the mountains of South America. The first three of…Travel6 min read
Jan 29, 2021On the Heterosexist Origins of Gender Dysphoria“What do you think it would be like to live in a world that isn’t structured against us?” I ask my partner after a group of teenagers taunt us; one of them made an effeminate jeer when we began walking away and the rest of the group laughed. “I don’t…LGBTQ11 min read
Published in CRY Magazine·Dec 10, 2020I Love You for Us and MeI say that I am in no rush to be with him in person even though I think about being with him on a continual basis. I encourage him not to worry about me because I am more experienced with relationships than he is and will be strong for us…Relationships6 min read
Dec 9, 2020On Phallic Masculinity and the Trouble with Being Hard All the TimeAn erection that lasts longer than four hours is a medical problem and yet some men act hard their entire lives. — I would like to believe that there is more to being a man than acting like a dick but I am unfortunately unable to reach this conclusion. If sex is the same as gender (i.e., if penis = male = man and vagina = female = woman), then being a…Gender8 min read
Published in CRY Magazine·Oct 20, 2020On Living Through and Writing About TraumaMy roommate invites me into his room and I automatically sit on the floor with my back against the wall. Others sit upon his bed and ask with concern whether I want to join them but I do not and say I’m fine sitting on the floor. I feel a…Mental Health11 min read
Aug 26, 2020Donald Trump, the Greatest White American PresidentDonald Trump is our nation’s biggest inspiration; we cannot stop thinking or talking about him. He inspires a wide range of sentiments, from fervid devotion to abject hatred and horrified bemusement. He stands for and proudly boasts what previous presidents could only sit behind closed doors to discuss. He’s a…Politics7 min read
Aug 2, 2020Queer Encounters With Race and Gender While Package Handling for FedExWorking overnight in a warehouse handling packages for FedEx this past year has taught and helped me grow a lot. I experienced the warehouse environment as a microcosm of American society that reflects the broader race and gender relations that structure our world, and as a result have come to…Race18 min read
Jun 20, 2020On Whiteness and NarcissismUnderstanding the Origins of White (Mis)Behaviors — The murder of George Floyd by police officers on May 25th, 2020 has sparked worldwide protests against racism and police brutality that are ushering in a new era of civil rights activism. Never before have so many people from different sociocultural backgrounds collectively participated in racial justice activism. Racism is…Psychology12 min read
